Relationships can be tough.
They are our best teachers as the people we attract into our lives tend to push all our hot buttons! Ouch!
We attract people to show us parts of ourselves that we’ve rejected or not loved unconditionally. This applies to them too. They’ve also attracted us to be their mirrors to show parts of themselves which they have rejected or judged as `wrong’. That’s why opposites attract at the beginning and then they start to really annoy us!
Can you relate to this? Perhaps, you were attracted to someone because he was so exciting, so flexible, flying by the seat of his pants! Usually a charmer, a good talker. Then when you tried to get him to commit to your relationship, he’d disappear like Poof! in a big puff of smoke?
Or you may have gently `nagged’ him about the issue; he would start to get uncomfortable and avoid the issue?
Then it got ugly and nasty until it was too late to reconcile. If you were married, divorce papers were exchanged or one night you’d come home to find all his stuff gone with some of yours as well? But his bills (charged to your credit cards) kept coming and you couldn’t find him?
Many women attract men who destroy them financially.
Or men attract women who break their bank!
Some possible lessons:
- to accept our personal power
- raise our self esteem to avoid attracting more `teachers’ like that
- to strengthen our boundaries (stop being pushed around)
If you would like to stop this cycle of destruction, please contact me.