This is another little story to show how some problems can be linked to something in the past.
Julie came to me out of desperation! She kept attracting the same type of men who would leave her after a few months or so. Only one stayed over a year before he left as well.
She was frustrated by their lack of commitment to her and their lack of faithfulness. She ranted on and on about how disappointed she was after each relationship ended. How much they were missing out, etc. Julie was full of angst and toxic emotions!
She felt especially hurt by John. The one who stayed over a year before he left. When we talked about her pain and sadness over this breakup, she brought up how her dad had left her mom when she was just a child, 5 years old.
Before we started, she said that she had a good relationship with her parents and didn’t mention her dad in too much detail. Until we started talking about John.
Suddenly it seemed like Pandora’s box was open and all her hurt, pain and fear of being abandoned like her mom came out.
We worked together until she could release the shame, guilt, fear and hurt. When her dad left, she blamed herself. She thought that if she had been a good girl, he wouldn’t have left. Of course, that wasn’t true but to a little girl, her world collapsed when her dad left and she blamed herself.
Julie also felt shame that there must be something terribly wrong with her. She must be unloveable or she was a bad girl and being punished. That was why men left her and didn’t want to stay.
After cutting the cords to the men in her past, Julie was able to forgive them as well as forgive herself and to move on.
I didn’t hear from Julie for a couple of months and then I got a surprise visit from her. Guess who was with her? You got it! They were beaming from ear to ear and holding hands together…
If this story has touched something in you and you’d like to find a happy ending like Julie, call me!